“What if’s” are always just a creative story written by your imagination. If you have ever had that awkward encounter with an ex, I'm here to give you 13 ways to deal with an old flame. I’ve never stayed in contact with anyone past the break-up, because I can’t imagine getting past the bitterness and resentment, or the leftover love and lust, and being Just Friends. It was kind of like well hey that’s it. You can make as many justifications as you like for "catching up" with an old flame but the fact is, she is an old flame and you run more than a fair risk of reigniting the relationship. In which case you should worry more that your partner doesn’t have contact with old flames than if he or she does because, I think, that would be a sign that you may not that good a choice and so before long you’ll end up the latest entry on his or her do-not-call list. In this case, no point in trying to contact her again. Last month an old flame contacted me via email after 6 years last face to face contact, and sporadic email contact between. When an old flame contacts you,He just wants to hear your latest situation. We don’t go any where. Why did your, suddenly contact you? There is one type of Facebook connection that has an especially elevated risk of marital peril - connecting with an "old flame". Missing you and thinking about you may be why your ex keeps texting you. Sometimes your own reasons have been affecting others to a certain extent, but you alone have not. You're married. Memories can be great but they also bring back the painful ones as well. Girl the same thing happend to me!!! He married someone else. This would be the hardest thing. But since the separation, your  old flame has been free, without those constraints, and is doing his favorite career. I saw an old girlfriend today for the first time in a LONG time. perception. I mean for goodness sake I don’t even have a ring, haven’t for over a year now. You could be converting up to 100X more leads today! I don’t want to be married anymore, my husband doesn’t appreciate me, he is not romantic, he doesn’t support me, and the sex is trash unless he hittn it from the back. Woke up in WTF haze and then of course went through old stuff and found tons of pictures from those happier days we shared. I’m … Maybe he has no idea, just cares about you. If one day your  old flame comes back to look for you, what will you do? Below I will analyze for everyone, 8 main reasons why your old flame suddenly contacts you. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook, a British writer/illustrator working in Berlin with his photographer wife on their cool blog, Überlin; our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter; and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett of Tyler Barnett PR in LA. ), 7.When an old flame contacts you, Maybe he has no idea, just cares about you, Some people contact because they want to know the current situation of their ex-girlfriends. Here’s a thought – what if there was an easy way for every visitor to “raise their hand” to get a phone call from you INSTANTLY… the second they hit your site and said, “call me now.”. Yet you know damn well they did something really messed up to you in the past. Only recently when we touched base with each other did i find out, he stated he tried finding me but had no luck, i guess my loss, i have been married for 25 years now but all through the years i would wonder what if? Why does a married man contact an old flame? I do not feel any attraction to him at all and cannot decided how to just state only friendship. 11. He left you when you were in the hardest time, and now he comes to you again and just blasted away. How your  old flame broke up with you before, you must think about it, if you don’t have much hatred, you don’t have a big grudge, just because of your character or a little thing, because at that time you were young and vigorous, and your temper was very stubborn. Make sure you remain honest if you decide to speak. In his last message he asked if he’d be stepping on anyone toes.. & that he was getting quite excited about catching up. But here’s another way to think about it: When you ask yourself “What if?”, you’re probably filling in that blank with an idealized fantasy, a picture of all the positives that could have come from that imaginary relationship, not bothering with all the potential — and inevitable — negatives. And it’s only natural to wonder whatever happened to them. After all, you have loved. Anyway, the break up has been tough on me. I loved him. I don’t see anything necessarily ominous about contact with old flames. broke up with you before, you must think about it, if you don’t have much hatred, you don’t have a big grudge, just because of your character or a little thing, because at that time you were young and vigorous, and your temper was very stubborn. How your. In fact it’s kind of healthy. Why would a man reach out to an old flame randomly months (sometimes years) later? An old flame contacted me after 22 years.I was married but he just had to see me,wished he could turn the clock back and had always regreted our parting. Do you respond to show you are the better person and nothing more...or do you ignore the call and proceed...any other suggestions would be fine too!!